In denying our shadow selves, we not only deny our wholeness, in their desperation to be heard, the negative parts of us that we consciously and unconsciously deny existence sneak out when we are not fully aware and we project our faults onto others. In truth, it is the things that we judge and harshly criticize each other for that we hide and deny the most in ourselves. When we come to terms with our own demons based on some form of greed, self-deprecation, impatience, arrogance, martyrdom, self-destruction, or stubbornness, we not only embrace and heal them in ourselves; we contribute to the healing of the whole. In our own firsthand experience of forgiving and acknowledging these behaviors in ourselves, we gain compassion when we see them in others.
-- Matthew Pallamary, Spirit Matters