COMING OUT

  
Did the gay community appear to be annoyed with you for not coming out?
Yes, but I find that the people who think that way are not as connected with their families as the people who have a more moderate view of how they want to come out. For instance, there are people who whom it would be ridiculous to pretend that they're not gay. The way they grew up, their mannerisms --I genuinely believe that for some people, they never had a choice but to deal with it from a very early age. And it's easy to understand why those people don't understand the people who aren't that cut-and-dry. I think very often that people who are plainly gay don't understand when people who are not as plainly gay have other issues to contend with.

Choices come with problems too?
Yes. But as soon as I fell in love, it was all clear. All the choices that I thought I was weighing were gone. You can only be proud of your sexuality when it's bringing you joy. Until you love someone, it's not necessarily bringing you joy. But without love, all of these issues seem kind of murky.

--George Michael, interviewed in The Advocate